Self-centered and lack of consideration

The patient arranged a group gathering,  specified location and an "about" time.

When realizing that the patient's other activity ends well before the gathering's scheduled time, the patient decided to change the time 1 hour early. The reason is the other invited member's schedule should have have ended by that time and can arrive at the designated location. It sounded like a considerate thought. 

But soon it's found out that the invited member's schedule end 1 hour before the original time. This still doesn't not bring too much co cer to the patient,  because the invited member is close to the location. 

However member of the patient pointed out that if people are told to follow a schedule,  they have arranged their activities accordingly,  so that changes are not really welcomed. 

At this different and "against " opinion,  the patient must have felt challenged and was not happy. Irrigated, "Why question my proposal? Ther is nothing wrong with it!", agitatedly.

The message of time change is delivered anyway, and the patient's group arrived 1 hour earlier, waiting at the location.

About 20 minute also passing the new time, the invited members sent message at last. They have just left home to attend the gathering. 

At this progress,  the patient become agitated. "Why so bad at time management?". "I don't understand why they cannot come right away. ... ... Shouldn't they be able to come here straightaway?"

About 45 minutes after the new time, half of the invited member's arrived at last. It turned out that the invited members were not together and went to the location separately.

The other half also sent more messages about having difficulties in reaching the location. Child's unwillingness to move at all, difficulty to get taxi. 

About 1 hour passing the new time, the 2nd half of invited members arrived at last.

Because of other conditions of the patient's member,  some of the patient's member left in the mid of the gathering,  and the patient had to send the member back.

The time limit of the location usage was 2 hours.

Consequently, the gathering becomes a chaotic one. Members had to deal with the patient's agitated attitude and comments. The members had have to be cautious about any comments, avoiding any possibilities of triggering an explosion episode. 

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